friendship..that very strong ship

WHAT defines a friendship; what makes a friend different from all other numbers on your phone? Is there some attribute, function, character or package that distinguishes an individual and gives them the exalted tag of ‘friend’, or maybe best friend?

There are lots of materials on the subject of friendship- poems, books, movies, art, songs; the list is endless.

Your best friends are not necessarily the people you speak to everyday; sometimes, you don’t know their addresses where they work; but when you need to, or want to see them, you can reach them.

Friends come in all heights, weight and colour, and there is a friend for all reasons and seasons. Admit it you have friends that are your approximate height and size and though it’s not the sole reason you hang out with them, it is convenient to be able to borrow a pair of jeans once or twice. (Please remember to return said borrowed items, thank you).

Some friends? Great for studying or working with. You know them, the ‘efficos’ that study when they are supposed to and turn in assignments at the right time. Then, there are the social friends. When they call, it’s because they want to invite you to a party, or to tell you this very cool and rich guy is interested in you. From them, you know what’s new, what’s hot and what’s on. Not necessarily the best option when you have a problem and need to talk to someone, they are however always, always good fun to have around and they help you express the not so serious side of you express your not so serious side.

My mum once told me that I need my ‘black sheep’ friends because they stop me from living a life with no excitement while your goody-two shoes pals ensure you never take it too far. There’s a sane friend that keeps you grounded, and the ‘crazy’ friend that makes you laugh. Remember your very first best friend? Maybe you played in the sand together when you were younger, but now, you can’t seem to connect, it’s like your lives have gone at different tangents. But sometimes, you’re blessed enough to have friends that are there from primary school to know, friends that seem to evolve as you evolve.

Some friends are just there for a season: The friends in boarding school that you shared a room with but now that you’re both in different universities, things are not the same. The friend that you were for her when her boyfriend broke her heart into a million pieces then blew the pieces away, but has now found a new love and almost seems embarrassed to have you around because you remind her of unpleasant times( shit probably happens).
But some friends are timeless; it just feels like the connection you have is on some deeper level. If you don’t know, the people closest to you are also those that have the power to hurt you the most. When you let your guard down and let people in, then be prepared to also have your heart broken. Things done by others may never hurt as much as when done by others you consider precious. Why do you think Caesar still had enough strength to say, Et tu, Brute? As he was being stabbed all over? It was the shock, he was thinking, “I don’t mind Cassius and Flavius stabbing me but Brutus, why???” That must have hurt more than the stab itself. It happens, but the test of a true relationship is not how it is when times are good, but it is when things unravel and you come out of it stronger than before.

You can’t be afraid to let relationships evolve and change, Just as we change, the relationships we go into will as well; you let go of some friendships that have run their course or are now detrimental to your emotional health, and you make new ones

In all my ramblings above, i really think friendships are not t-shirts; one size does not fit all. I make friends based on my terms and ‘definitions, love as your heart desires and your head advises, never ignore that warning signal in your head that goes beep beep when you’re taking things off the handle, and be the best friend you can possibly be.

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careless boofriends

Why are boyfriends always careless... hmmm i know you feel like killing me right here, maybe because you feel your own is not...... Well, i don't care what your own stereotype is, but no matter how sweeet they are or how goooooooooood they make you feel..they are sometimes just careless.


So i'm coming to complete tis really soon!

Careless boofriends

Here,,now.

It's weekend now, i eloquently used most of my week to wash my mind( lol, if there is anything like that). Yup! So i thought and i thought, came to a conclusion that i wanted to get rid of all unhealthy relationships and friendships in my life, keeping them will do me no good. We all have relationships or friendships that weigh us down, why then do we stick to them if all efforts to make them better prove abortive. So i said goodbye to them. Well this is not what i wanted to talk about, so i digress. You know how i'v always wanted to own a blog, yes people who are very close to me are sure of that. So i finally did it and it's here now, live and direct for y'all. It promises to be entertaining and rejuvenating.. WELCOME TO MY BLOG.